Then someone died . . .

Being an honest parent Take Two:

My stepmom’s youngest brother died last weekend. He is being buried tomorrow morning . . .

Me: Thomas, remember we have to go to uncle Poen’s funeral tomorrow, eh? Remember he died and now we have to say goodbye to him.
BT:Yes I remember. He died?
Me: Yes, remember how I said when people die we put their bodies in the ground and we give their souls back to God.
BT: Yes. So we going to give uncle Poen back to God tomorrow?

Me: Yes and say thank you for giving him to us for a bit. But people will be calling him Freddie because that was his name.
BT: Oh so his name is Freddie like my name is Thomas. And Poen is what people call him? Like you call me Beebee?

Me: Yes my boy. And remember to give Ma a big hug as she is very sad because her brother died.

BT: Ok Mama, I will give Ma the best hug and tell her uncle Poen is going back to God.

Shoeeee, that went way better than the chicken drama!

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20 thoughts on “Then someone died . . .

  1. shazdart

    Amazing boy! Well done on discussing a difficult concept and my condolences to you and your family. A sad time for you all. xx hugs xx

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  2. shazdart

    Amazing boy! Well done on discussing a difficult concept and my condolences to you and your family. A sad time for you all. xx hugs xx

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  3. Our-Journey-To-Parenthood

    Well done on explaining it so well, I think it is very important for children to understand the concept of death. Condolences to you and your family xx

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  4. bothajs

    Ah, sweet Thomas.Makes me remember my mom’s funeral (actually memorial service, cremation) – little nephew (then 7) rocks up @ church with toilet paper strips hanging out his ears “want hy wil nie hoor as hulle vir Ouma gaan brand nie”! Shame…

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  5. crey

    You have the most awesome way of explaining death. Mind if I “steal” it? I tried explaining it to Shaun a few months ago with my uncles funeral. But, it was akward, because I wasn’t prepared for his very direct questions. Thomas sounds like a very grown up little 4year old. And oh, so sweet!

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  6. crey

    You have the most awesome way of explaining death. Mind if I “steal” it? I tried explaining it to Shaun a few months ago with my uncles funeral. But, it was akward, because I wasn’t prepared for his very direct questions. Thomas sounds like a very grown up little 4year old. And oh, so sweet!

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