I dunno about the other mommies out there with toddlers but I feel used… Thomas (22 months) ONLY ever calls me Mama:
1) At night when he wakes up and needs a cuddle
2) When he really needs me – like to give him juice or an apple or something that Dad has refused to give him
3) When he’s been a brat and I ignore him a little.
The rest of the time, I’m Daddy or “ee ee ee”. Now I’ve put a fair bit of time, love and energy into this relationship and he still calls me Daddy? How does this work. He knows who I am… he knows what to call me when he really needs me and wants to butter me up, so why can I not be Mama ALL the time? It’s a bit like your current squeeze calling out the name of his ex in the throes of passion — SO NOT ON!
Another thing is kisses… He’s like a cat – love and affection on my terms, when I feel like dishing it out. My fave refrain is: “Kiss your Mama! – NO (with giggle), Kiss your Mama! – NO (with more giggles), Kiss your MAMA! – NO (with full blown belly laugh!). Daddy gets kisses whenever and wherever… I suppose the fact that I only spent 3 months at home with him and Daddy spent 18 months at home with him has something to do with it, hey? Blast… I’m so not doing the Superwoman/mommy thing next time around. But with my sort of luck, I’ll probably spend the first FIVE years with the child and it will still say Daddy first! Can’t win.